By Lizzie (Age 26) – lizspeakssite.wordpress.com
I wish I could talk to every person who has been hurt and who has hurt someone – and tell them and even show them what it feels like to love and be loved. I would also like to show them how beautiful kindness can be, and that violence and crudeness eats away at you from the inside out and deprives you of a wonderful life. Unfortunately, not everyone has the luxury of love, support, kindness, and understanding. Some have had Pandora’s box opened on them and evil has found a way to dominate their lives – however, in the very same box…one gift remained. And that was the gift of hope. And that is what I would love to give you today, with all things considered, at best I would love to give you some hope that things can get better.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made the victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” Thank you Robert Frost. I hope you hold onto every word of that, because this here is your armor. You were brought into this world, wanted or unwanted, doesn’t matter. You’re here and you have every right to be here. You deserve this life, and it deserves you. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t roll over and allow yourself to be the victim. Hell no. Every time you feel like you are being treated less than what you deserve as a basic human being, you speak up and say “hell no, I am not standing for this.” No one gets to tell you that you don’t belong, and if they think they think they can, that’s fine, shrug it off; laugh it up and carry on with your life.
“Some people won’t be happy until they’ve pushed you to the ground. What you have to do is have the courage to stand your ground and not give them the time of day. Hold on to your power and never give it away.” Thank you Donna Schoenrock. Abusers, find pleasure in the reactions of their victims. Don’t play the part they want you to play. Don’t give them the pleasure of your submission, sadness, fear, tears or anger. Remove the pleasure and stand your ground. Listen, you don’t have to follow the “eye for an eye; tooth for a tooth” saying, but don’t take out your eye and tooth and hand it to your bully on a silver platter either. I had a bully who used to hit me on the back of my head every time we had to walk from one classroom to the next. It was humiliating and painful. At first, I cried. Then I grew fearful of that walk and thought of ways to dodge it, which only made it all the more fun for her. Then I got angry, which made her laugh. And then, I stopped reacting. After two days, she was done. It was no longer fun for her now that it had absolutely no visible effect on me. You get to choose how a bully’s behavior effect’s you. Hold on to that power.
“Sometimes it’s the people no one imagines anything of who do the things that no one can imagine.” Thank you Alan Turing. Imagine that. You know, some people hate different, because it scares them. You beautiful scary mysterious creature you! If you are different, if you think different, if you act different, dress different – a hell of a lot of people will come for your throat, because oh my God you are going to throw of the balance of the good earth. People hate different and people hate change, because it forces them to dig deep and sometimes even opens their eyes to the borders they keep themselves in. Sometimes, like crabs, people don’t like watching one creatively climb out the box they are placed in…they will just claw you back into the crab box of certain death. Death of your potential, your visions, and your dreams. Again, hell no. You are different for a reason; you are born to be different. Do you think the earth would have sky scrapers and computers if everyone decided that being a cave dude is the best they could do and should do? No, mute the haters and sprinkle your magic onto the earth.
“Anyone can give up; it is the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone would expect you to fall apart, now that is true strength.” Thank you Chris Bradford. You might feel like the whole world is crashing down on you with so many bullies present in many aspects of your life – I am sad to say this but, this is life. Bullies will be present in many forms on many occasions, it’s time to develop a thick skin. Some times when you feel like you are going through this alone, I want to tell you the greatest thing I could possibly tell you…you are not alone. What? You’ve heard this before? Well it’s true. You’ve got friends in the authors who write brilliant books – read their words and stack up on their brilliance, it will carry you further than any cruel word any bully had to say. You’ve got friends in the musicians who pour their souls out in song – listen to their words and let them empower you, strengthen you, and free you (yes, you should definitely dance as well). You’ve got friends in athletes who work ceaselessly and with unwavering dedication to reach their goals – let them inspire you to reach your greatest potential in all your pursuits. And if you follow a faith, then you have God – your guardian, your best friend, your journal, your buffer board, your strength…leave it to God, and let that alone give you peace. I found my greatest strength through my difficult times, when I felt like God had my back no matter how things turned out, and that every obstacle I faced is either saving me or preparing me. See? You have so many friends, each one different and special and giving. You are not alone.
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” – Psalm 139:14 “In the original Hebrew text of the Bible, the word fearfully means: with great reverence, heart-felt interest and with respect. The word wonderfully means: unique, set apart, and marvelous.” I think this really sums up the message that I’m trying to provide to you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made…don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
P.S. When the days are hard my dearest one, please make like Maya Angelou and Rise. (Her poem “Still I Rise” will speak to your soul, give it a read on particularly difficult days – you won’t regret it.)
Sending you my heartfelt love and hugs.